When you begin your relationship you are a lot more aware of romance, life is perfect, new, alive, and exciting. Then you start to get used to each other and the excitement starts to fade, that first magic can just become something everyday. If you do not take care of and nurture your relationship it will start to grow stale, the bond between you will start to fade, and with nothing to hold you together you relationship will fade. Romance is the life blood of a relationship, no matter how many decades you have been together it puts a sparkle in your relationship. So put the romance back into your life.
Probably the most intimate thing that you can do with you clothes on is to kiss. Whilst words can build and strengthen a bond between you it needs physical contact with each other to cement the bond and to help it grow. Kissing may be a very simple thing to do but it can have a powerful affect because it is something that comes from the heart. That physical contact is just as important as talking to each other, so kiss, hug and hold hands. On a similar note are three words, I love you. People need to know that they are loved, they need the reassurance that you really love them, and the simplest way to do that is to tell them.
You do not have to do anything anything expensive, quite often the most effective thing to do is the simplest.
Whilst it can be fun sex is not everything and everything does not have to lead to sex, there is more to romance than just that. Being together, sharing experiences and memories as well as making new ones, talking for hours about something and nothing, sharing your hopes, feelings and emotions, sharing your lives. I've just had a thought, where does romance stop and love begin, is there any difference between them or are they facets of the same thing, needs thinking on.
You have to make time for each other. We all lead very busy lives so you might not have a lot of time where it can just be the two of you but you have to make the effort. That time together keeps your bond strong and it makes life worth living. In your relationship there is no one as important as the two of you, people will come and go from your life, your kids will leave you, and at the end it will be just the two of you.
Go out on dates, that always helps to put the romance back in your life. I would just like to point out that you are never to old to go on dates and have fun. It is always a good idea to find new things to do and new places to visit because that gives you shared experiences and memories. Find hobbies or interests that you can share, doing things that you enjoy together further adds to your pot of memories. If times are tough then having something happy and positive to look back on can strengthen you. If you had some memorable dates when you first met up then why not recreate them. You could have some fun going to a place for the first time and pretending that you are on a first date, you can get to know your partner all over again. It does not have to be anything expensive, a walk through a park or the countryside can be enough to take you both away from the daily grind of life. If you can get away on vacations then find some place that does not cater for families, you want the focus to be just on the two of you.
Spontaneity is always a great way to give yourselves a romantic boost. Surprise your partner with a gift, a vacation or maybe even just by washing the dishes. Gifts do not have to be extravagant, flowers and chocolates are the tried and trusted favourites, but have you thought of giving gifts that have special significance such as a CD with a favourite song, any kind of token that has special meaning to your relationship will really give you a romantic boost.
Put romance back into your life by flirting with one another, it just needs to be a few words, do you remember doing it when you first got together? Why should you miss out on all the fun? Once they have been together for a while far to many people forget about having fun together, they become dull and serious which is such a waste of your time together. Okay so you could be going through a bad period, but keep focusing on the positive, do things that make you happy and if you are both happy then no matter what life throws at you, you will be able to deal with it.
You can put romance back into your life if you lighten up, work at your relationship, and do not take it for granted. Both of you have to want to do this, personally I think that you would be crazy not to because this is something that you will enjoy. Keep the focus on the two of you. Spend time together, do things together, talk, laugh with and touch each other. Share your lives with each other so that you both have a real connection and you can understand each other. Let the other know what you want and need from the relationship so that you do not have to rely on guess work. Do things to help and surprise your partner. And at least once a day, tell your partner that you love them.