A happy, healthy and successful marriage does not create itself. The marriage must consist of two people who are willing to put forth the effort into keeping their marriage happy, healthy and successful.
Communication is one of the best ways to keep your marriage alive and strong. When something your spouse does bothers you tell them about it. Explain how you feel. Staying calm and rational, and communication will get you a lot farther than keeping it all inside or yelling and screaming. Couples need not only communicate when issues arise however.
Communication is a key element of a happy marriage all the time. Communicate about how your day was. Communicate the fact that you love your spouse. Communicate your thoughts and feelings. Have conversations. Talk to eachother like you are best friends.
Trust is another key element in a happy and successful marriage. When trust is not present the future of the marriage appears dim. Trust is something that needs to be maintained. If your partners has had no reason not to trust you, and you have had no reason not to trust them then that trust is being maintained. Once one partner gives the other a reason to not trust them then trust issues arise. These issues can be worked through with communication and honesty. Remember, trust can be relearned, and re-earned.
Honesty is another very important marriage staple. Always be honest with your spouse. Lies only create trouble. A lie is like a snowball. It starts out as just one little white lie but then soon rolls over itself again and again until it is a whole ball full of lies all based on that one initial lie. This is definitely something you want to avoid. Honesty is always the best policy, regardless.
Compromise is also very important. No two people will always agree on the same things, just as no two people will each always get their way all of the time. When you want it one way and your spouse wants it another it is time to compromise. Why does your spouse want what they want, and why do you want what you want?
Why does your spouse not want what you want and why do you not want what they desire? There is always a happy medium. Meeting in the middle can be done once you understand where your spouse is coming from and once they realize where you are coming from. Marriage isn't about one spouse being happy or the other being happy. It's about both spouses being happy together. Compromise often.
Communication, trust, honesty, and compromise are all very important factors in a happy, healthy, successful marriage. Without theses things a marriage will struggle and even suffer.