Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, the downs can sometimes lead to one or both parties of the relationship wondering "Is this the end?" While this usually does mean the end for some relationships, others are just fine. Unfortunately we sometimes let our insecurities get the best of us and it shields all the good things coming out of your relationship. Here I will describe some ways to determine the difference between an ending relationship and just insecurities.
Ask yourself why
If you are feeling insecure about your relationship the first thing to do is ask yourself 'why are you feeling this way?" While this may seem like a common sense thing to do, it is sometimes necessary. You could just be having a bad week, or day, and the smallest thing in your relationship could set you off. It is easier to take your hard feelings out on those who are closest to you so evaluate your insecurities first.
Talk about it
If you feel like something just does not feel right about your relationship, the best thing to do is just talk about it. If you make up a bunch of problems about the relationship in your mind then accuse your partner of your make believe theories, not only will it make you look crazy but it can cause some actual problems in the relationship. A relationship should always be open for communication. If it is not, than this can be a primary cause for feeling insecure in your relationship.
Give it some time
As I stated earlier you could be going through a rough patch or maybe your mate is going through something at the time. Give it some time. Just because one event may be out of the ordinary, it does not mean that your entire relationship has gone south. Give yourself and your mate some time to think things through before you get upset about your relationship.
These are just a few tips to keep your insecurities under control during the down periods of your relationship. If you are feeling insecure be sure to let your partner know what you need so that you are not feeling as insecure about your relationship. And remember ups always follow the downs so stick with your mate if you know they are a great match for you. J