A Response to Interracial Dating Does it Really Matter

I found the article Interracial Dating: Does it Really Matter? by Jerrell Ellerby to be a breath of fresh air. Being in an interracial relationship myself, I can relate to what he is saying in his article.

A Response to Interracial Dating Does it Really Matter

I found the article Interracial Dating: Does it Really Matter? by Jerrell Ellerby to be a breath of fresh air. Being in an interracial relationship myself, I can relate to what he is saying in his article.

I'm a white female and I'm happily married to a wonderful man from Puerto Rico. Now, even though I don't have any problems with my interracial relationship, I'm sure there are some people that do. There are some people out there who have it in there heads that people can control who they fall in love with. This is so untrue. My husband and I started out as friends. We were both already involved in rocky relationships, and we would give each other advice and be there when the other one needed a shoulder to cry on. We stayed friends for a long while after we had both left our bad relationships. Never once did we cheat on the people that we were with when we first met each other. However, time went by and we became best friends, and after that we realized that there was a lot more there than just friendship - a whole lot more.

I believe that love comes in all shapes, sizes and genders, and I believe very strongly in the fact that you can't help who you fall in love with. Would someone really choose to be gay when they know how tough their life is going to be as a gay individual? Do you think that someone who is gay really wants to break their parents' hearts when they "come out" and tell them that their son/daughter is gay? How many suicides have there been amongst young gay teens that can't handle the ridicule and hate anymore? Do you really think someone would kill themselves if they could just snap their fingers and not be gay anymore? The answer is no, they wouldn't. Jerrell's article isn't about being gay, but I'm just further proving his point that you can't help who you love, so why even try?

When your soul mate comes to you, embrace that love that they give you, even if it means being in an interracial relationship. Don't be afraid that people will look down on you or try to cause you harm, because after all is said and done, you two will be the happiest people on the face of this planet. There are some small minded people out there that believe that people should "stick to their own kind" and despise interracial relationships, but I don't let those people bother me. They mean nothing to me, so why should I care what they say?

Now, even though you should be proud of who you are and proud of who you love, I wouldn't suggest you going out there and proclaiming your love for your partner during a KKK rally. That's just asking for trouble. If you're going to be in an interracial relationship, you should be smart about it. Now, by all means, don't go and hide away in your house and never go out on dates just because you're in an interracial relationship. I'm just saying to look for warning signs when you're out. Like I said before, there are some ignorant people out there that believe that being in an interracial relationship is wrong, and they will actually try and cause harm to the couple. I thank God that I don't have to deal with that. I live in Central Florida and there aren't too many racist people here. My husband and I do get the odd look every now and then, but we just smile and keep walking.

I'm totally with Jerrell on this issue. Don't shut the door on love just because it comes in a different flavor. Variety is the spice of life baby, and you just might find that the phrase "opposites attract" is true for you. And how much more opposite could two people be than when they're in an interracial relationship? They come from different cultures, and most of the time they come from different backgrounds too. Your differences can work together and compliment each other, making you stronger as both a couple and as individuals.

I found the article Interracial Dating: Does it Really Matter? by Jerrell Ellerby to be a breath of fresh air. Being in an interracial relationship myself, I can relate to what he is saying in his article.

I'm a white female and I'm happily married to a wonderful man from Puerto Rico. Now, even though I don't have any problems with my interracial relationship, I'm sure there are some people that do. There are some people out there who have it in there heads that people can control who they fall in love with. This is so untrue. My husband and I started out as friends. We were both already involved in rocky relationships, and we would give each other advice and be there when the other one needed a shoulder to cry on. We stayed friends for a long while after we had both left our bad relationships. Never once did we cheat on the people that we were with when we first met each other. However, time went by and we became best friends, and after that we realized that there was a lot more there than just friendship - a whole lot more.

I believe that love comes in all shapes, sizes and genders, and I believe very strongly in the fact that you can't help who you fall in love with. Would someone really choose to be gay when they know how tough their life is going to be as a gay individual? Do you think that someone who is gay really wants to break their parents' hearts when they "come out" and tell them that their son/daughter is gay? How many suicides have there been amongst young gay teens that can't handle the ridicule and hate anymore? Do you really think someone would kill themselves if they could just snap their fingers and not be gay anymore? The answer is no, they wouldn't. Jerrell's article isn't about being gay, but I'm just further proving his point that you can't help who you love, so why even try?

When your soul mate comes to you, embrace that love that they give you, even if it means being in an interracial relationship. Don't be afraid that people will look down on you or try to cause you harm, because after all is said and done, you two will be the happiest people on the face of this planet. There are some small minded people out there that believe that people should "stick to their own kind" and despise interracial relationships, but I don't let those people bother me. They mean nothing to me, so why should I care what they say?

Now, even though you should be proud of who you are and proud of who you love, I wouldn't suggest you going out there and proclaiming your love for your partner during a KKK rally. That's just asking for trouble. If you're going to be in an interracial relationship, you should be smart about it. Now, by all means, don't go and hide away in your house and never go out on dates just because you're in an interracial relationship. I'm just saying to look for warning signs when you're out. Like I said before, there are some ignorant people out there that believe that being in an interracial relationship is wrong, and they will actually try and cause harm to the couple. I thank God that I don't have to deal with that. I live in Central Florida and there aren't too many racist people here. My husband and I do get the odd look every now and then, but we just smile and keep walking.

I'm totally with Jerrell on this issue. Don't shut the door on love just because it comes in a different flavor. Variety is the spice of life baby, and you just might find that the phrase "opposites attract" is true for you. And how much more opposite could two people be than when they're in an interracial relationship? They come from different cultures, and most of the time they come from different backgrounds too. Your differences can work together and compliment each other, making you stronger as both a couple and as individuals.

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